Wisdom to Live By

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths."
Proverbs 3:5-6

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Addison Grace

As many of you know, James and I are expecting #4.  So far it has been an easy pregnancy, nothing to really complain about.  Two weeks ago our world was turned upside down.  Something abnormal in my blood results required us to go in for a high resolution ultrasound.  The doctor then gave us the news that no parent ever expects to hear,  our baby has Trisomy 13.  The doctor actually apologized having to give us this news and also a little surprised himself with us already having 3 healthy kiddos.  Trisomy 13 is a rare chromosomal abnormality that affects 1 in 16,000 babies and is caused by a completely random mutation at conception and is not inherited.  You never expect to hear that you have become the rarity.  He explained that we needed to have an amniocentesis to confirm, but we refused, not wanting to put the baby at any more risk.  In all of recent ultrasounds we have found out that we are having a little girl.  We have decided to name her Addison Grace.  So you're probably wondering exactly what this means.  Trisomy 13 is a condition that is labeled "incompatible with life".  Basically the doctor told us that if Addison makes it to term, we will not be taking her home, she will not survive long after birth.  The doctor as us if terminating was an option and we said absolutely not and we will let God decide when to take Addison.  James and I want all of you to know that the last two weeks have been insanely hard.  We've had our good days and our very bad days.  Somedays it really hits me that I may never bring my baby girl home, but we have 3 blessings that keep us going.  While we continue to pray everyday for Addison and for a miracle, we both are at peace with whatever God's will is with our baby girl.  Although this is random and rare, God's is drawing us closer to Him and we know that this is part of His plan for our lives.  We appreciate all the prayers that we have been receiving and we ask that you all continue to pray for our family and little Addison.  I am encouraged everytime I see her on the ultrasound, she's a feisty one.  They're always having to chase her down.  She is measuring quite well too for a T13 baby and her heart rate is good.  As I have been reading a few stories of people in our situation, I feel that it is necessary to say:

Please DON'T:
Assume you know how we're feeling or doing
Try to take this on as your situation
Call us with condolences, Addison is still moving and kicking.  If you would like to express something, email is fine.

Please DO:
Pray for us
Ask any questions you like, please don't walk on eggshells around us.  We are ok and resting in God's peace
Phil. 4: 6-7
Thank you so much for your prayers and thoughts.  We will continue to update everyone as we go through this process.

Love, James and Erica Frisk

9 comments:

  1. Sweet friend! I will be praying daily for you and your little Addison! Keep me posted how you are. Much love from me, Jason and Levi! Will you be in GA for the 4th and for Kandy? We're hoping to!

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    1. Thank you so much! Wish I could be down there. I have lots of dr's appt. at the beginning of July.

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  2. What a tough situation to take in. I will pray not only for little Addison but for you and James as well. Life can be so ridiculously unfair.

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    1. Yes it can, thank you so much for your prayers! :)

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  3. I clicked over here from Biblical Homemaking to read your story. Even though I am a total stranger to you, I am a fellow sister in Christ and will be interceding on your behalf.
    May the Lord continue to lead and guide your family as you follow Him. Prayers from New York,
    Sarah

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    1. Thank you so much Sarah. Stranger or not, we covet your prayers. :)

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  4. Dear Erica and James-
    I am so praying for God to provide a wonderful miracle-our prayers are with all of you. We love you all.
    ~Rick and Desirae

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  5. Covecakeshop@gmail.comJuly 15, 2012 at 9:57 PM

    Having gone through the extended illness and loss of Shannon, I am glad you are putting Addison in the lords hands. My prayers are with you and the family. Jackie Petit

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  6. I will continually be praying for you and your family during this time. My prayer will be that God will provide a miracle for Addison Grace. May He continue to sustain you all through this and you walk with your trust in Him. Grace, what an appropriate name for your little girl. It will indeed be God's grace that sustains you in this time. I am reminded of Jeremiah 29:11 for who knows all what God is going to do with this time in your lives.

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